Saturday morning we made chocolate chip pancakes, which we understand is a Saturday tradition for them. Doug rolled up their sleeping bags since I had a really hard time the last time, then we headed back to their house because Aaron had football practice. I feel bad because a couple of the pictures Lydia made for Bonnie didn’t make it home with her and Doug was very helpful cleaning up, but they got thrown out.
On my way home I was talking with a friend about a very sad situation because she’s been working with a birth mother for about 7 months and after labor (my girlfriend held the birth mom’s legs), giving birth (my girlfriend cut the cord), and having the nurse hand the baby to my friend to hold him first since she was going to be the baby’s mom….she decided not to give her baby up for adoption. It’s so sad. I completely understand that people can change their minds, but wow. She took the coward way out and didn’t even sit down and talk with my friend about it; she had the caseworker call and tell her. The worst part about the adoption system is that women can take $1000’s from adoption services and not have to pay a penny back. These women are not held accountable for their actions and for the money they have, more or less, stolen from these agencies. My friend said that the agencies don’t want to make women pay the money back if they change their mind because fewer women would put their babies up for adoption. I think it would make these women think twice about trying to scam the system and it would certainly make them think very hard about what they are doing. I know suing people isn’t the answer for everything, but I really hope my friend gets an attorney to get all their lost money back. At this point it was a business transaction that the birth mom failed to follow through with. (I know there’s a baby involved and emotions involved, so it’s more complex than that, but it still doesn’t lessen the fact that she’s taken money for something that didn’t happen).
After talking with my friend for about an hour, I went into the hospital to drop off a poster board the kids made for Brian. Brian has been in so much pain. It’s amazing what the human body can handle and especially what Brian has been able to handle. I don’t know if I could ever be as strong as Brian. He has a beautiful family that he’s fighting for and it really puts the in’s and out’s of daily life into perspective. I’ve been dwelling on some things lately and then there’s Brian, who just wants to have a drink of water (although he would prefer Pepsi), let alone a drink of water without throwing it up from pain. He has been throwing up and passing blood clots too, they did a procedure last week where they ran a camera through his arteries to see if they could find where the bleeding was coming from.
We all want him to get well so badly.
I think Stan (Doug’s dad) said he’s lost just over 60 pounds to date.
Through it all, Brian still has a sense of humor. We were talking about random things and we got on the subject of fishing. Doug and his dad were talking about fishing with minnows/worms and through Brian’s nausea and pain he said, “Gimme my worm back!” I guess Stan used to say that when a fish would steal his worm from the hook. We had a good giggle. I don’t know why that simple sentence stuck with me, but it did.
Keep the prayers and positive thoughts coming!! He needs to be strong enough in order to have the next round of chemo on Thursday.
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